You already know how to do this

A couple of weeks ago, my wife and I had a fight, a big one. It wasn't a marriage ending fight, and I knew it at the time. But it was a fight where I needed to do something to act out, to show how wronged I felt,

A Chromosome

The Y chromosome looks insignificant when lined up next to the other chromosomes. It's a little nubbin of a thing, an afterthought that has nevertheless rewritten human history. In actuality, most of its work is done in the womb, shaping the sex organs of babies assigned male at

Episodes: Fame

A couple of weeks ago, a friend was discussing with me an idea they had encountered from Hank Green, the novelist, vlogger, and all-around internet cool dude. The idea is that fame, as it were, has tiers. Five of them, to be specific. The lowest tier -- tier one --

Episodes: Every part of the whale

Last year, the best book I read was Moby-Dick, by Herman Melville. This is likely not a statement that will surprise you, but I was surprised by how true it was. I expected the book to be great. I didn't quite expect it to be so great that

Burning your male privilege, with Emily Sandalwood

There may be no time when any human being becomes aware of how much male privilege they have than right when they are about to lose it. And there may be no time when any human being becomes so reckless with that privilege than when they know that every use

Stealth: Vocabulary

Today, I saw something on Twitter that really made me mad. Posted by Erik Weinstein, who works at Thiel Capital, it was part of a string of tweets he made that were designed as a so-called "scientific" pushback against Twitter's new regulations that make it easier

Looking at women

"Do you always get in a car like that?" she asked. "I don't know," I said. "I guess?" "I thought maybe you'd started trying to copy how women get into cars! It just seemed so feminine." And I

Episodes: It's already gone

On the ceiling of my childhood bedroom are glow in the dark stars, which I placed there well over 25 years ago. I've always thought they looked a little like a pirate, thrusting his hook hand into the air, cursing Peter Pan. My wife thinks they take the

Wanting

The idea I see shared a lot in trans discussion spaces is that wanting determines destiny in some way. Because I want badly to be a woman, I am a woman, by this line of thinking, even as I write this while cloaked in the guise of a seemingly typical

To the girl at the Hollywood/Vine Metro station in LA, out having fun today

First: I love your shoes. Perfect going out shoes. Second: I'm sorry if I stared. I didn't mean to. I know that you are probably self-conscious about that, since you don't pass. And I know that there are a lot of men who make

Testosterone

A few years ago, for a medical matter, I had to get regular testosterone shots every other week. My levels were within the normal range for a man, but at the low end of that spectrum, and everybody wanted to find a way to boost them to prepare for an

Emily

So I have the most compartmentalized brain in the history of humankind, due to a bunch of factors you almost certainly wouldn't care about, readers who are mostly (though not exclusively!) me. This is one of the reasons I spent a lot of time believing I wasn'